Why Is It Always About You The Seven Deadly Sins of Narcissism
Why Is It Always About You The Seven Deadly Sins of Narcissism
In this groundbreaking book — the first popular book on narcissism in more than a decade — clinical social worker and psychotherapist Sandy Hotchkiss shows you how to cope with controlling, egotistical people who are incapable of the fundamental give-and-take that sustains healthy relationships. Exploring how individuals come to have this shortcoming, why you get drawn into their perilous orbit, and what you can do to break free, Hotchkiss describes the “Seven Deadly Sins of Narcissism” and their origins. You will learn to recognize these hallmarks of unhealthy narcissism — Shamelessness, Magical Thinking, Arrogance, Envy, Entitlement, Exploitation, Bad Boundaries — and to understand the roles that parenting and culture play in their creation.
Whether the narcissist in question is a coworker, spouse, parent, or child, Why Is It Always About You? provides abundant practical advice for anyone struggling to break narcissism’s insidious spread to the next generation, and for anyone who encounters narcissists in everyday life.
User Ratings and Reviews
5 Stars The book has become my “Rosetta stone”
I have read some other books on this topic but, for me, everything was so on target that it seemed the author must have been living in our marriage. I had so many questions because so many things just didn’t make sense to me. Now I haven’t been able to think of a question that is not answered in the book. It is a freeing feeling when things have answers that make sense and are consistent. It has made a huge difference for me and is helping me immensely move on with my life.
5 Stars A definite must-read!
After breaking-up with my boyfriend of several years, I started searching for answers to explain his unreasonable behaviors. I started looking into personality disorders and came across this book. For anyone who has experienced a narcissist, this is a must read! By the time you get done with the book…even before you’re done, actually…you will understand so much more than you did. Your questions will finally be answered, and you will learn that you’re not crazy afterall!
2 Stars Too Technical
“Why is it Always About You?” starts off being quite helpful but then falls into the “why did I start this” catagory. The book becomes very technical after the first couple of chapters and the jargon becomes disruptive to the non-professional reader’s apprection of the subject.
I didn’t finish it and am now looking for something in a more “reader friendly” format. Big dissappointment.
5 Stars Knowledge is Power
This book provided exactly what I needed to understand the underlying issues of a person with narcissism. It was in-depth, but in laymen’s terms so the understanding came quite easily. I am better able to deal with the narcissist that I am in love with and the one that I work for. But most importantly, I’m better able to detect these traits in others that I meet and underdstand the part I play in engaging them in narcissistic behavior. My relationships are much better particularly because of the strategies to know myself, embrace reality and set boundaries. I recommend this book to anyone who wants to understand why a person is narcisssistic and how it affects us in relationships.
5 Stars Why Is It Always About YOU? hits the mark
This book very accurately describes how narcissists become how they are in the first place, but even more clearly describes how you can be ensnared by them. I learned a great deal about myself and why I was vulnerable to codependent relationships with narcissistic individuals, and strategies to prevent this in the future. Most importantly, the author gives very practical and helpful ways to cope and thrive when exposed to a narcissist. The section on the narcissist in the workplace was phenomenal; this applies to the dynamics of a church with a narcissistic pastor at the helm, or any organization, for that matter, dominated by a self-absorbed individual(s).
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