Getting Past the Affair: A Program to Help You Cope, Heal, and Move On

Getting Past the Affair: A Program to Help You Cope, Heal, and Move On — Together or Apart

Posted on June 8th, 2009 by Mental Health Recovery

Getting Past the Affair: A Program to Help You Cope, Heal, and Move On — Together or Apart

In the aftermath of infidelity, couples often struggle with emotional turmoil and sometimes make decisions they later regret. Getting Past the Affair helps them overcome the initial shock, understand what happened and why, and think clearly about their best interests before they act. Based on the combined insight of leading marital therapists and researchers, this unique program encourages couples and individuals to take things one step at a time, whether they stay together or part ways. Research shows that roughly two-thirds of those who use the approach find it significantly beneficial, making it the only program to have been empirically tested–and proven–to help partners restore trust and rebuild their marriage after an affair. Even in cases where reconciliation is impossible, this compassionate, insightful book emphasizes ways for readers to recover personally and avoid emotional scars so they can pursue healthier relationships in the future.

User Ratings and Reviews

5 Stars Best Book to date
I am a marriage and family therapist who only works with couples. Many of these couples come with either a current or past affair as a problem. Until this book came out, I recommended Not Just Friends, by Shirley Glass. While that is an excellent book, this book is even better. The chapters are crystal clear and specific. Each person is assigned a task in the healing. General principles are stated as frameworks so that each person has a mindset to go by. I will be recommending this book to all couples who come with this problem.

Michael T. Clifford LMFT Everett WA Certified Gottman therapist, Certified Emotion Focused Therapist

5 Stars Excellent resource for individuals and couples
This is a great book for both partners in the damaged marriage. It uses non-offensive terms to refer to each of the involved parties. It provides very good strategies and examples for coping with the initial stages after the affair is discovered, as well as for working on repairing the marital relationship. It is particularly helpful with suggesting ways for each individual as well as the couple to reflect on why the affair occurred, to deal with emotional reactions, and to communicate with each other going forward. I have read several books, and this is one of the top two or three.

4 Stars Good book and very informative
It was a good book for people who are going though betrayal. It did give a lot of good information.

5 Stars Great for both sides. Cheaters need help too!
This book is very ‘real’! Not so clinical like many others and helps with both parties to heal together. I bought three books and I find this one the best so far.

5 Stars Help is here!
I highly recommend this book for anyone trying to live through infidelity. I have read several books and this one had so much helpful information. It was written in a way that didn’t attack the participating party or the injured party but gave good information for all parties involved. Unfortunately my spouse chose not to read the book with me but reading it really helped me to understand and validate what I was going through. If you are faced with the heartbreak of infidelty this is a must read book. If you don’t read anything else, read this.

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